"I write only because there is a voice within me that will not be still." Sylvia Plath

Empathy…

The traditional way of raising babies is really like used toilet paper…it should be flushed away and never used again…

There are so many wrong aspects of it…

One thing I just thought of…is “empathy”…Most moms think it’s ok and even good for a baby to leave them to cry. Especially at night. Those kids need to “learn to sleep!” They need to “learn to soothe themselves”. And, while I could go on for hours about the spiritual, physical, and emotional damage this does to kids…I wanna focus on one small thought…”cause and effect”…

Baby can learn when they cry at 3am and mom “sleep trains” them and does not respond…
…that sometimes no one comes when they cry…
…that sometimes their cries don’t matter; maybe whatever they’re crying about doesn’t matter…
…that they are on their own…
…the only one who is always there for them is “themselves”…
The baby’s “cause” = “no effect”!

Baby can learn when they cry at 3am and groggy mom comes staggering in and tends to them lovingly…
…that mom always will come…
…that what bothers them matters to others and must be valid; they can trust themselves…
…that when they cry that they can change their world…
…that loving others means that you’re always there even when it’s not convenient for you…
The baby’s “cause” = the “effect” of seeing a person who has been ill-effected by the cry and yet has come to our assistance and loves us anyway and cares about and helps us with our problem!

What a beautiful lesson for a baby…to cry…and have mom there by their side…all groggy and tired…but loving them. What a beautiful example of love…The baby will learn the “cause and effect” of their cries that they can change the world they live in…and that their cries sometimes can effect others in a negative way and they will over time learn to have compassion and empathy on others and they will learn when to “cry out” and when to “wait” till a more convenient time for others…

“Greater love has no one than this…than a mom drag herself outta’ her bed for her baby!”

:)

(Of course, the baby should just be in bed with mom…but…that’s another post)

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