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Willfulness!!!

After posting the last thing I posted, I thought that a lot of people who have been raised on the belief of “Original Sin” would ask why kids sin…but…they’re seeing things wrong…

Willfulness…is not “sin”. Willfulness means we “have a WILL”…

Willfulness is one of the things that separates us from the animals and makes us like God. It’s one of the ways we’re created in His image. He has a will. We have a will.

Willfulness is only “bad” when our will opposes or disregards God…when our will is anti-Christ…

When our children begin to display willfulness…and actually begin to argue with us…when they “persist in trying to climb those stairs after we say, no!”…is not sin! It’s our children discovering and learning that they have a will…and it’s our job to not destroy that! But, to guide that will into reason, and into being a “good” will which will love God…

One of the saddest things in the world are the eyes of a child who has had their will “beaten” into submission by parents who believe that is “God’s way”…vacant lifeless eyes which live on faces that rarely smile or laugh… :( God gave us a will…He doesn’t want it beaten into submission…He wants our will to willingly submit to His will…

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“New Shoes”

Today my girls went on a “shoe date” with Dad. They needed new shoes so Dad took them to Payless and when they returned they came bursting into the house, “Look! Look!” Then, for the next half hour we must all, “ooh!” and “aah!” over the new shoes. Both girls wanted the tags taken off and had to change their socks and their clothes a little so that their outfits matched their new shoes perfectly. And, funny how putting something on their feet can travel all the way up to their tops and make their faces glow!

It got me thinking…

When we become Christians, we begin to be transformed into the “image of Christ”. Christ is the most beautiful thing in the universe…and so the more we are like Him, the more our insides are “beautiful”. And, really, every time we “get new shoes” spiritually, we should be the same way!

I kinda’ think that each time I run over to the computer and start typing here that it’s like that. I’m saying to all of you, “Look! Look at my new shoes! What do you think?”

Of course it makes me wonder…What if we were as discerning about our new “spiritual shoes” as we are about physical ones?

What if we made sure that our “spiritual shoes” matched our “outfits”? Would people accuse the church of being full of “hypocrites”?

What if we replaced old worn-out “spiritual shoes”? Would the church be more in tune with today’s people? Would we be able to reach more people because we’d be able to relate to them?

What if we were as excited about looking for new “spiritual shoes” as we are about getting new physical shoes? Would we spend 20 years sitting in pews every week? In the same church every week? Would we have “church doctrines” (stuff people think about the Bible) which generation after generation remain unchanged?

Does the world see your “spiritual shoes” and say, “Wow! Where’d you get those?” or do they either find your shoes offensive, or not even notice them at all?

Do your “spiritual shoes” stink? Do they offend people? Some Christians think that when they offend people that means they’re doing something good, but, that’s not always the case. I’d say that that’s mostly not the case…

Indeed, all who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will be persecuted.
2 Tim. 3:12

Living godly in Christ Jesus would make our shoes beautiful. It makes everything about us beautiful. The more we are living godly in Christ Jesus the more we’ll look like Him and the only people who found Him “offensive” were the religious people…

As we become more like Christ, the most beautiful being in the universe, everything about us will be more and more beautiful…and if our “spiritual shoes” offend someone it will not be because they “stink” or are “ugly” but because they are “so beautiful”…

But I am speaking to you who are Gentiles. Inasmuch then as I am an apostle of Gentiles, I magnify my ministry, if somehow I might move to jealousy my fellow countrymen and save some of them.
Romans 11:13-15

If you think about what makes people “jealous”…stinky, worn out, out-dated, mismatched shoes do not “move to jealousy our fellow countrymen and save them…”

One of the most persecuted groups in the world is actually “the rich”. And, it’s pure jealousy whether folks wanna admit that or not!

If you think about it…what moves people to envy is by identifying that someone else has as better than what they have. The envy comes after the thing has been judged to be “better”. The world should look at our “shoes”…the things that protect our “walk”…and they should clearly see that our shoes are better and more beautiful than theirs…it should inspire them to look at their own shoes and go, “Hmmm…so…where’d you get those? How much did they cost?”

As it is, what the world sees is a group of people walking around in old, worn-out, mismatching, stinky shoes…criticizing everyone else’s shoes…saying, “You need ones like ours!” Or, rather than coming into a room like my girls did today full of joy and excitement saying, “Wow! LOOK at my new shoes aren’t they beautiful!” No. We Christians often walk into a room, proudly, in our “church shoes”…with our noses in the air and we make snide comments to people about how great our shoes are.

If you think about all the different ways you could present your shoes to another person, you really can see how effective or not the presentation would be and why the world finds the church nauseating!

What if you walked into a room and to present your “church shoes”…you…

…argued with other people who had similar shoes that yours was the best pair…
…did nothing but talk about your “church shoes” and had never even heard of other shoes…
…handed pamphlets out to all who didn’t have “church shoes” to tell them why their shoes suck and yours are the best…
…you stood in the center of the room and preached to all in the room about the superiority of your “church shoes” to all the other shoes in the room…
…you were constantly pointing out to everyone that every problem they have in life is because they don’t have a pair of shoes like yours…
…you kicked people or stepped on their toes with your “church shoes”…

All of the analogies work…and how many of us try to “evangelize” like this? How many of us try to “minister to the world” in these ways?

Then when we’re rejected, scorned, or mocked we tell ourselves it’s because we’re doing that verse…“Indeed, all who desire to live godly in Christ Jesus will be persecuted. 2 Tim. 3:12” when in actuality it is because we are NOT.

When we work on our own lives and living godly in Christ Jesus…everything about us will become more and more attractive to the world…and we won’t have to “say” a word to them…they’ll just want what we have because they’ll see it…they’ll be “jealous” of it…

Live…in a way that “might move to jealousy my fellow countrymen and save some of them.”

Look at your “spiritual shoes” today…
Does your whole “outfit match”? Examine all the things that you believe and ask yourself if those things “match” or do they contradict?
Do you believe that you must repent to be saved, but, that babies are sinful, but don’t go to hell when they die? Do you believe we’re ‘born sinful’ and can’t help but sin but yet somehow owe God an apology for it? Do you believe that “God is love” but that when bad things in life happen that “God must have a reason for it”? Do you believe that you are a Christian parent but yet you ignore, and cause your child pain to “teach them a lesson”? Do you believe you are “pro-life” but yet find children to be a big pain in the butt? Do you obey the law of the land? Do the hurting and unloved feel safe coming to you? Do you ave a reputation for being “religious” or for being honest and dependable and a good person? Do you believe you are more loving than God because if you knew that tomorrow I was going to be hit by a car you’d warn me but yet you believe God knows the future and yet does not warn me? Do you believe God is love but yet has PLANNED from the beginning that I’d be hit by that car? None of these things match! 
Are your shoes old? Outdated? Worn out?
Is the foundation for your doctrine stuff that was written by “a man” hundreds of years ago? Is the doctrine which is the foundation for your daily life something that was timely when it was presented to the church way back then, but now it just makes your faith look “weird” to the world in a negative way? 
Are your shoes comfortable? Or do they hurt your feet and interfere with your walk?
Because of doctrines which teach us that our flesh is just “evil” we often will disregard its signals that what we believe is just wrong…Like people who are angry with God for years over something they believe God did while at the same time they believe He’s good…If your doctrine gives you pain you need to change your shoes…
Are your shoes bought “from of the Bible” or bought “at a Church”?
Do you refer constantly to what your church believes or what you were taught growing up or what you were taught in “Bible College” or what your favorite “author” thinks? Or, do you get your shoes straight out of the Bible?
Are the shoes the right size for you or do they make you trip?

Do you still wear the SAME shoes as you did YEARS ago? Or, do you buy the same exact shoes year after year?
If you were to talk to you 10 years ago “right now” would you and that person agree on everything?
Do your neighbors look at you and admire you or do they think you’re a “Jesus Freak”?

Look at “your feet”…

Go shoe shopping…

As soon as you notice your neighbors and friends going, “Whoo” at your “shoes”…you’ll know you’re on the right path and don’t need to go on the “God Channel’s What Not to Wear” show… :)

Again, if I had time to write a book…this analogy could go on and on and on and on…long enough that I could wear out my keyboard, I’m sure!


Truth Suppression 101

Matthew 7:22-24 “Many will say to Me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?’ “And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; DEPART FROM ME, YOU WHO PRACTICE LAWLESSNESS.’

Knowing God is of primary importance in life. So, it makes sense that God…made it evident. He plays fair. No one is going to show up on judgment day and be able to say, “No fair!” He made it fair…

Romans 1…that which is known about God is evident within them; for God made it evident to them. For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made, so that they are without excuse.

God…desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth. (1 Tim. 2:4)
God knows that the truth is critical for our being saved…
God wants us all to be saved…
And…God knows there is a force out there who lives to steal, kill, and destroy…and deceive…

So, God put the truth inside us because He knows that there is a force out there working actively to prevent us from knowing the truth…

So, if you were working with the forces of darkness to prevent humans from “knowing God” you would need to do something to prevent humans from understanding, interpreting, identifying, and responding to that truth which God put inside them…

So, hmmm…how would you work to make humans fail to recognize the truth that God put on their hearts? Probably start with the children!

Truth Suppression 101

1. As soon as the humans are born do everything you can to get their parents to dysregulate their bodies so that the baby will not learn how to read his own body’s signals. Convince parents to completely ignore the baby’s body’s signals and fulfill their body’s needs based on an outside system or schedule. Convince mom and dad to completely ignore what the baby says and decide when baby eats, doesn’t eat, sleeps, wakes, etc. In this manner all of the baby’s natural systems will not recognize that their natural drives are to be responded to at all and that all needs come from an arbitrary outside source and that they themselves have nothing to do with the fulfillment of their needs.

2. Convince all humans that the body which they are born with is by nature/naturally God’s enemy so that they will not listen to anything the body has to say. Convince them that their body only wants to do what’s evil so that they will question everything their body tells them. In this way, as the humans question all of their body’s signals they will begin to “suppress the truth”. (This is important because this will ensure that parents fulfill their duty in the dysregulation or else mothers would respond to their babies when they cry because of that truth which is programmed into them. If the mother believes that it is her “flesh” which desires to go to her baby when it cries, she will suppress that truth and not respond to it, and in this way continue with the dysregulating conditioning of the baby.)

3. Convince all humans, that tho’ they are fallible, that under no circumstance is it acceptable for children to question authority. Convince parents to punish children harshly any time the child dares question or argue with the parent. Teach the children that this is disrespectful and will result in pain. This is important training which will make the child less apt to respond to the truth on their heart (for fear of being disrespectful and fear of pain) and make them more apt to blindly accept whatever situation or teaching they find themselves in. This conditioning is essential for truth suppression. In life then…whatever Tom, Dick, or Harry happens to be their pastor and no matter what he teaches them the child raised this way will not think to question or challenge any of it.

And, that seems to me to pretty much get that ball rolling well enough…after that the humans sin training should be smooth sailing!

The truth is so evident…so clear…that God’s wrath is revealed when we suppress it…it’s THAT clear…

Fun white lie…

I was just thinking about how we teach our kids to be naughty without knowing it and then turn around and blame them, their “sinful nature” or “Adam”…

Lying…

A simple “harmless” thing like telling your kids that Santa is bringing them their toys. Parents say it’s all for fun. It’s “magical” and does them no harm. And, mostly they do this FOR the kids…for THEIR pleasure…for the kids…

Well, I currently have 4 kids under 9…and none of the 4 believe in Santa and all 4 had a tremendously fun and awesome Christmas. So, telling your kids that Santa is real isn’t REALLY for them, is it?

Telling kids Santa’s real is for the parents…it’s for our enjoyment so we can see the kids’ expressions and hear the cute things they say about Santa coming…so we can see their excitement…it’s for our enjoyment…and to empower us…to enable us to manipulate the child to get them to do what we want basically to give us more enjoyment…

“Little Billy! You’d better not do that! Santa’s watching, you know!”
“Little Sally! If you don’t stop that right now Santa might not come!”

Break that down and what it’s really saying is, “Child! You’re behaving in a way that I find irritating, and rather than really get involved and find out what’s ailin’ ya, I will now lie to you to manipulate you into stopping this irritating stimulus!”

It’s all about us being able to manipulate someone smaller, weaker, and more ignorant than us…by lying to them…to get them to behave in a way that’s pleasing to us…

THEN when our kids get a little older and start lying or focusing on pleasing themselves at another’s expense…we wonder, “Why?” And, Christians resort to blaming the “sinful nature” and are actually bewildered when they ask, “Well then why do all kids misbehave? You don’t have to teach them to!”

“Whatever you sow…that you also shall reap”…

Doesn’t matter if you say it’s all “for fun”…it’s not really. And, kids aren’t empty heads who “forget” that the person they trusted most in the world lied to them…And, the thing is it’s not like the “lie” of Santa is a once n’ done little thing…you say this lie over and over every time you tell your kid Santa’s coming or especially when you remind them about Santa SO THAT they will do what you want them to do…

It matters…

Stomach Acid and sermons…

Ever deal with a puking child and then wonder why God made our stomach acids so stinky?

“For since the creation of the world His invisible attributes, His eternal power and divine nature, have been clearly seen, being understood through what has been made, so that they are without excuse.”

God is the one who decided to refer to His word as “milk” and “meat”. Food terms. So, if everything God made tells us something what does our digestive system teach us? Even in your kids’ stinky barf in the middle of the night…there is a lesson about God!!!

What this non-scientist knows about the digestive system:
When you eat literal food…you begin by totally tearing it apart…(chewing)…
You right away douse it with something to begin to make it break down (spit)…
Then when it hits your stomach a vile acid completely breaks it apart and turns it into liquid…
Then…your intestines begin to absorb water (Jesus is the living water) and nutrients out of the food…
And, finally, your body takes what has no value…which is MOST of what you took in…and poops it out…

(If there were time for me to really investigate it…I’m sure there would be an entire book-worth of depth to this analogy)

For the “body of Christ” to be healthy we need to treat “spiritual food” the same as we do literal food…

We…the church members…when we sit and listen to any pastor “feed us” from (his interpretation of) the Word of God…we need to not just sit there and passively accept (swallow whole) whatever the pastor says. But, how many people will sit there and chew on it??

How many pastors would expect their church members to do that? How many pastors would see their congregation “chewing” and see that as a threat? But, “chewing” literal food is what RELEASES the nutrients! We all know we’ve been told to chew our food properly! Chewing makes it possible for us to get the nutrients out of the food and to eliminate the waste! Pastors should WANT to see their congregations “chewing” on their sermons! Unless any pastor has “arrived” and has now got EVERYTHING all figured out…all pastors should want their congregations to chew and throw most of it away!

Jacob “wrestled with God” all night…and in the morning was renamed, “Israel”…because he wrestled with God. God’s people are supposed to be people who “wrestle”…who take things in and “chew it” and “break it down” and “tear it apart” and then extract the “nutrients” and “living water” from the food…

And, after we break down what we’re “fed” by our pastors and leaders…we need to go and expel the waste…and it stinks…the majority of what we’re fed needs to be expelled…and flushed away…not analyzed…not put on a shelf…but cleaned up and buried and never seen again!

I believe all of the bad doctrine that is pervading the church today is caused by the fact that people do not digest what’s fed to them…rather they swallow it whole and never poop any waste out…because if you sit and “tear apart” the doctrine of “original sin” or the idea that “God is in control” or the idea that we’re supposed to HIT our kids “for their own good”…or ANY of the common beliefs of the modern church…you would realize there’s very little (if none) “living water” or “nutrients” in it and that pretty much all of it is “waste”…most of it’s like a dry cracker…

The body of Christ is full of this waste and it has poisoned us from the inside out…It’s why the “world” accuses us of having “blind faith”…because we DO…we don’t chew…we don’t wrestle…

Part of the problem too is that we have all these churches who have established their church doctrine on what the famous “church fathers” have written and we swallow that whole, too!

So, what did your pastor “feed you” this week? Chew on it!!!
(I intend to wear out my teeth before I die!)

“Letting your kids run wild”…

I think what happens often with parents…maybe even most of the time with parent’s whose mindset is that they are to “train” their children…is that they ultimately send the message (that they actually believe but don’t realize they believe) that their child is not acceptable for who they actually are and that only the parent’s imagination of who the child ought to be is acceptable. Any deviation from the parent’s ideal for who the child should be is dealt with, snuffed out, dubbed “bad” and worse yet, with Christian parents, is deemed to be “against God”.

When false church teachings get mixed in there…then we…based on false teachings that our children are “evil” from birth…will see any manifestation in the child’s personality that is not what we imagine the child to be like as a manifestation of this inherent “evil” in the child. “There’s Adam coming out in him” I’ve heard parents say.

Then, we add injury to the insult and after falsely accusing the child of being “sinful” we then punish them by hurting them. We, the people they look to to learn what “love” is find out at an early age that we do not understand them at all and that, “Love bites! Love bleeds! It’s got me down on my knees!” (Def Leppard)

Children then grow up under these circumstances learning that love is harsh, and critical, and that they are not good enough unless they are who the parent thinks they should be. We make fun of how so many people spend time trying to “find themselves” but there is legitimacy in this for the child who is raised this way because every day is spent trying to behave the way the parent wants and who they really are and how they really want to behave is lost…

There is no mystery why teenagers are so drawn to music which cries out, “Grown-ups don’t understand us” and have angry undertones. Children who have been rejected for “who” they are from the moment they were born…children who have been falsely accused of being “evil” for the natural curiosity they were born with that God gave them…are going to grow up angry and confused…

Parents, especially Christian ones, need to wake up. We need to look at children the way God describes them as “fearfully and wonderfully made in His image” and stop seeing these children as “made in the image of the devil” (Adam). We need to see the curiosity and wonder and vitality and excitement about life in our children as God-given and enjoy it. We need to stop worrying about “training” our children and instead; enjoy and love them.

Sadly, to a thoroughly indoctrinated mind that last paragraph will sound like fluff and sound like, “Let your kids run wild” and that’s not that at all. If your mind has been “trained” you will be blind to the reality that yes, in some sense, we are to let our kids “run wild” because what is “wild” is what is the natural state for something.

“Wild” animals are simply animals who do exactly what God intended them to…well…not originally but (under “plan B” in the post flood earth) they currently follow their God-given instincts and nothing more. And, is that not what you think you want for your kids? For them to follow their God-given instincts? Don’t you want them to develop the way God designed them to be?

“Wild” animals live in the environment created for them and fight to stay in that environment. Satan came to enslave us (cage us) and the last thing any “wild” animal will allow to be done to them is to live in a cage! Isn’t that what you want for your child for them to resist the “snares” of the devil? To resist enslavement and being “caged”? Wild animals… they eat when they are hungry not on a schedule. They sleep when they are tired not on a schedule. They live the way God has programmed them to “instinctually” to live and they resist cages.

“Wild” animals do not fare well when they are taken from their natural environment and put in cages in a zoo. They do not thrive. They do not often reproduce meaning they don’t create LIFE with their lives. (Just like Romans 1 says…the animals do not thrive when caged and neither do humans…Satan’s cage for us robs us of life and we do not thrive when we are “in sin”…)

“Wild” animals who have been raised in environments where they were prevented from being who they were designed to be…where they have been prevented from responding to their needs according to their instincts…where they have been fed by a zoo keeper or a trainer on a schedule having their food brought to them…animals who are forced to obey trainers and behave in ways not natural to them…these animals cannot survive in “the wild”…they cannot survive in the environment that they were created to live in…they have no idea how to take care of themselves…if they are turned “loose” and allowed to live “on their own” after years of being controlled and living on a “schedule” they will die…

The human animal’s natural environment is one of community…living in community with other people…having needs and getting them met and seeing to the needs of others…and loving and trusting God…and children raised in a “cage” cannot survive in this natural environment…in “the wild” once they are released from their zoo-keepers/trainers…And, this is evidenced by the high suicide rates, high divorce rates, high rates of people on anti-depressants…and the like! The human animal struggles to live “in the wild” because they cannot take care of themselves…and they “die” inside because of the cage they grew up in…and I believe that the doctrine of “Original Sin” is one of the main culprits in this huge problem in society…

I have an example of how I think the doctrine of original sin is harmful…from a reality that happens in our home…

Scenario #1: Tori is 2. She has a special blanket and a special sippy cup she enjoys chocolate milk in. Sometimes she will want the blanket on her and when one person will attempt to give it to her she’ll react, “No!!!! I want MOM TO DO IT!” or Dad…either way. But, what I’m getting at is that sometimes she insists that a CERTAIN PERSON respond to her. She is only satisfied when the person she is requesting finally gives her her request. (Most of the time it is mom, but sometimes it’s dad or big sis)

My husband and I are both aware that if “certain people” we have known were to see this drama unfold in our living room that we’d get the head shake of disappointment and the “tsk tsk” finger shake of disapproval because of the pedagogy that drives most Christian parents as they “train their children up right” and because of their indoctrination…

Now, if I were to agree with those who’d disapprove of this and look at this situation from an “original sin”/child-training perspective, I’d look at Tori saying, “I want MOM to give me the blanket!” and see this as rebellion in her. I’d see this as behavior to be curbed and snuffed out…for her own good! I’d certainly not let her “have her way”! I would “not give in” and let this tiny tyrant tell me what to do! And I’d maybe even punish her for it. I’d see her insistence on “me” serving her as an expression of her “sinful nature” as “Adam coming out in her”.

So, based on my beliefs in this situation I would not give her what she wanted and I’d (basically) accuse her of “being evil”.

But, what if this is NOT an expression of a “sinful nature” in her? What if this is not “Adam coming out in her?” What if what Tori is feeling is, “My mom hasn’t paid much attention to me today ’cause she’s reading that crazy book on child-rearing practices thru the ages and typing on her computer and all I’ve seen today is the back of her head and I want my mom to pay attention to me ’cause I need to feel some love from her and I feel neglected!” What if THAT is what Tori is feeling? What if she’s feeling that way? Whether I react accordingly or not is going to do some significant TRAINING of one type or another, true?

Lesson #1: What if Tori is feeling that way and so she cries out, “I want mom to give me my blanket!” and mom comes…and gives her her blanket and sits down with her for a second and snuggles her and says, “I just love you so much!” (which is what actually happens when this happens) In that scenario…Tori FEELS neglected and FEELS a (natural God-given) need for love. Tori uses her capacities to express that need, “I want MOM to give it to me!” And, then, Tori is shown that her need is legitimate and she is rewarded for properly responding to it. She gets what she needs in the way God intended her to get it.

That’s what we happen to do here in this house. But, now what about the parents who would look at the whole thing playing out with Tori demanding that I bring her her blanket as her manipulating me? “Oh you’re letting that kid rule over you”.

“Woe to those who call good evil and evil good”. Why does the Bible say that?

Let’s now look at Tori asking for her blanket from the perspective of the parent who has that attitude…

Scenario #2: Tori sees me sitting on my computer all day and feels a need for an expression of love from me. Dad offers her a blanket and she responds, “I want MOM to give me the blanket!” Dad sees this as Tori attempting a coup  in the house and says, “No, Tori you will take the blanket from me!”

Tori now feels threatened and misunderstood by Dad and feels an even stronger need for mom, so she insists, “I want MOM!”
Dad sees this as Tori displaying her “sinful nature” and accuses her in his heart of not being herself (of Adam coming out in her) and of behaving “sinfully” in her insistence and sees her as being disobedient. So, Dad either forces her by his stern look and angry voice to stop crying out, or, has to take it to the next step and strike her and cause her physical pain in order to get her to stop expressing her desire for mom’s love. Once Dad has accomplished this and Tori is sitting peacefully and obediently in her chair with her blanket he feels he has “won the battle” and done something good. But, what did Dad do?

Lesson #2: Dad falsely accused Tori of being “sinful” when she expressed her God-given need to have attention from Mom.
Dad taught Tori that when she FEELS that God-given need, that that need is WRONG and it’s useless, wrong, and even painful to dare express that need. Eventually when this type of thing happens often enough, Tori will not learn what her God-given needs are. She will not trust her own feelings on anything. She will eventually see all of her own “desires” as potentially “evil” and cease to express any “desires” for fear of being found out as evil or being punished. Dad will sit back and proudly smile at his complacent and obedient daughter who never complains or causes a fuss. Then, someday Tori will be 40 and married to a man she cannot express anything to either…she will have desires but not know what to do to fulfill them.

All sin is the fulfillment of a good thing in a wrong way…so what has Dad just taught Tori to do?

Woe to those who call good evil and evil good…

In reality…when Tori feels like she needs love from me, she has learned to acknowledge that need and how to convey it. She’s learned that when she has that feeling and when she does something about it; her world changes. She’s learned that mom and dad see her need as legitimate and worthy of our time and energy. We give her what she needs in the right way so that she’s learning by repetition that when she feels the need for “love” that WE are who she should come to. Not a bottle. Not a toy. Not an activity. Not another friend. US. We are the safe place for her to fulfill her need for love.

The most beautiful thing about Tori “right now” in life is every time I tell her, “I just love you so much!” her response is always, “Yes.”

Someday when it is just Tori and God and God says, “Tori I just love you so much!” she won’t struggle with that. She’ll say, “yes!” And, when she feels unloved or neglected, and someone “else” comes and offers to comfort her, she’ll know how to say, “NO! I want GOD to do that!”

It’s taken me till kid 8 to figure these things out…but I’m figuring…daily in life I am figuring more and more out…thank God that I “call good evil and evil good” less and less every day!!!!! HOPEFULLY for those of you who actually read my rantings, that you can learn from my years of mistakes…and from my searching…and really…I’m sure some who have been thoroughly convinced otherwise will want to argue…but JESUS SAID we’ll know stuff by its FRUIT. LOOK at the society we live in! Even within the church we have a 50% divorce rate! Divorce happens because people can’t relate well! People divorce because they can’t get what they need/desire in a proper and honoring way to others and because they are not capable of fulfilling the needs of their spouse…WHERE did all this come from? WHERE did this inability to maintain relationships come from? We learn it…we are taught it…we are “trained up” in this way and we go and when we’re old we do not depart from it!!!!! WOE TO THOSE WHO CALL GOOD EVIL AND EVIL GOOD…woe…

Pleasure comes from God…

My oldest child, Casey made a good point today as I was telling her about what I just wrote about “pleasure”…
EVERYTHING GOD MADE IS PLEASURABLE!

Think about it! We sing the song all the time, “God is good…all the time…” but do we mean it?

God made…
…the beautiful colors that make up nature…the color and scent and feel of grass…the beautiful shades of color in the sky…the clouds…the feel, purpose and scent of rain…snow…the look and smell and sound of the ocean and the beach…the sun…the animals…love…each other…sex…hugging…

The world GOD MADE is full of wonder and beauty! Entire channels on cable are dedicated to God’s wondrous earth!!!

So, far from our natural inborn desire for pleasure being a sign that we’re “sinful” – it is a sign that we’re born with a natural desire for God and His Creation!!! It’s evidence that He has set eternity in the heart of man! It’s evidence that God made a Creation to please us and He made pleasure possible for us. He created the part of our brain that’s to lead us toward pleasure and away from pain because GOD is GOOD…and if we hunger for “pleasure” it will lead us to Him…

And the fact that we like the same things He does…just is further indication that we’re made in His image!

So, all pleasure comes from our GOOD God and our desire for pleasure is just evidence that we’re made in God’s image…now who do you suppose hates that? Do you really think satan’s just gonna stand by and let that go? You think he’s not going to attack that?

Sinning does not feel good. That is yet another lie from satan that sin feels good. Do we believe it?

Romans 1 says everything is knowable thru what God made…and God made our bodies and Sinning makes our bodies sick…If we would be responsive to the thing in our brain that tells us to stay away from things that are painful…we’d stay away from sin…

Psalm 31:10
My strength has failed because of my iniquity, and my body has wasted away.

Psalm 32:3
When I kept silent about my sin, my body wasted away through my groaning all day long.

To think that our body desiring PLEASURE leads us to sin is a twisted and false understanding of “sin” because it is not pleasurable. There are some things that feel good while you’re doing it but…

If you spend the evening with your family gazing out at the sunset and enjoying each other’s company you go to bed that night and sleep peacefully. If you get caught doing that you do not have to justify it or make excuses for it. If you go out and get drunk at a bar and pick up someone to go have sex with at a motel…when you return home that night you do not sleep peacefully. And, if you get caught in the motel with the person from the bar, you don’t have to make any excuses, apologies, or justifications.

If while you were standing in the bar with a drink in your hand you were to seek TRUE pleasure, you’d set your drink down and head to home…you would seek God…and be spared the pain of sin. Sin enslaves. Slavery is painful.

The world makes it look like the partying life is full of laughter and good times, but it is not true. Simply not true! Yes, you laugh and you have some “good times” but all the while it feels icky. You have guilt. You have anxiety. And, you have an empty feeling inside. “There is a hole in the heart that can only be filled by God”…and everyone who has ever been in that lifestyle knows that empty feeling. Living a life of sin does not “feel good”.

Seems that having an improper understanding of what is good and what is sinful messes a lot of things up in life.

Isaiah 5:20
Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil; who substitute darkness for light and light for darkness; who substitute bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter!

On the contrary to what the world advertises as a fun life…Being in a right relationship with God FEEELS good even when trials and tribulation strike. And, so if you seek “pleasure” in the midst of a trial, you will be seeking a relationship with God.

When my husband (Mark) was killed in 1998…the closer I got to God the better I felt. Even while I was experiencing the greatest amount of pain in my life I felt pleasure drawing near to God. He relieved my pain.

When my husband now (Virgil) was being taken away in 1990 in the jungle of Guatemala to be executed…he started to feel afraid and to be in pain in his situation but when he drew near to God he felt pleasure…he felt joy in the midst of that trial and it actually saved his life.

I think people with a wrong understanding of this would believe that…if you saw an unprotected ipod on a table somewhere…and you desired to have the pleasure of owning an ipod…and so you stole that ipod…there are people who would believe that, “There! See! Having an ipod is a good thing and it led the person into sin because they wanted that pleasure!” But, this is not looking at this situation fully. The desire to possess an ipod would be a “pleasure seeking” desire, yes, but the desire for that pleasure is not what led to the sin. “The one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it to him it is sin.” Right?

The urge to steal in order to possess an ipod is not pleasurable…that urge will actually not feel good. Your body will instantly react negatively to the temptation to steal. The act of stealing in order to possess an ipod will not feel good. Guilt and fear of being caught will be among the emotions that will be happening in your body. Possessing a stolen ipod will not make you feel good because every time you look at it you will know you got it by stealing.

The ipod is a pleasurable item for those who like electronics and music. The desire to have one is not wrong. The desire to steal in order to have one is what is wrong and the desire to steal comes from your heart…not from your body! In fact, the desire to steal in order to have something will cause problems in your body! Your BODY does NOT want you to sin! It cries out against you every time you are tempted! And, that is why someone (maybe satan!) does NOT want you to understand this! That is why satan would prefer you believe that your body is your enemy and not to be trusted!

The pleasure-seeking programming in us is from God and for God and for our own good. It leads us to Him. It will help keep us free from sin. It is an evidence that we’re made in His image. The one who came to steal, kill, and destroy wants you to believe it is “sin”…

Really, could this be clearer??? Well, I guess it can, actually, ’cause as I keep talking to my kids and husband about this all day it does keep getting clearer!!!

(And, I need to add, because I am obsessed with this other subject too, that ignoring your baby when they cry…ignoring your baby’s cries for the pleasure of your presence or for food or comfort when they want it…when they are just starting off in life…mis-configures and mis-wires their brain in regards to pleasure and pain…”spoiling” as in “ruining” your kids is exactly what you do when you ignore their cries…And CAUSING pain to your children “for their own good…out of LOVE”…does some major confusing of this system also…)

I am still thinking…

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